>> Why Are You So Mean <<

I have many theories as to why Mean Girls, are just so mean... again, I have no formal fact finding. This is just based off my personal observations.

I have noticed that quite a few Mean Women, were once harassed by Mean Girls. Its the abuser theory. If you are abused, you often become an abuser. I have always found it odd that a person who has been wronged so badly, turns into exactly what they hate. I know there is a psychological reason behind it, but I have never understood that. However, I suppose being victimized by a mean girl, is it own form of abuse.

I have also seen women who were less popular or "cool" when they were in school, and perhaps never a subject of bullying but somehow felt slighted - they become mean women. Oddly enough picking on the prettier women or women who have more than they do.

Both stated above generally choose to attack people they are jealous of or look up to. Sometimes you will see they pick on people who remind them of their former self, and sometimes its just about preying upon the weak.

Then there are the women who were mean girls, and they are just plain mean and grow up and become mean women. I knew of mean girls in school. Some were "popular" and pretty... while others were neither stated, but just flat out mean ass bitches.

The pretty mean girls enjoyed belittling those around them, so they could elevate their social status.

However the non lipstick bullies, they came with serious emotional baggage. They mainly seem as if they hated their lives and want to take it out on anyone near. They didnt care who you were, or why or what... you were in their way. Essentially mean to everyone but those within their small circle. Mostly those who were also mean.

At the end of the day, it is people who are unhappy with themselves and take it out on others. The sad part is that these people grow up and some.. not all remain mean. Some turn mean as a result of past bullying. As adults they can mom shame, body, shame, work shame... you name it. Women oddly will find one way or another to put down another women.

Call me crazy, but as long as you are happy and healthy.. I am happy for you. If you are finding success in whatever it is you are doing.. HELL YEAH! Get it girl! I am secure enough in my own life to not have to hate someone elses happiness or success.

Now I am not saying I am flawless. Trust me, there have been some women I dont like. I have bullied or gone out of my way to make their day suck. Usually they have been people who have tried to wreck havoc in my happy little world or hurt those close to me.. and thus I am mean. Defensive perhaps. Either way, I am not flawless. Just in case one of these women who I have come down on is reading this.. she can't scream liar! Nah, I have been mean.. but I assure you the person had it coming after whatever they had done.

Anyway... whats the deal... why do girls, and women feel the need to belittle one another?