>-> The Mean Girl ~ Grown Up <-<

A friend of mine, who lives in a smaller Canadian town has enlightened me to some stories of grown ass women who are still acting like high schoolers and trying to hurt other mothers.

Now I get there there are moms out there, perhaps all... that put down other moms because of their insecurities. I get that, truly.. but it never ever justifies the actions. Go get help. Believe in yourself. Offload the people who don't make you feel adequate. Guess what, you wont have to put down and hurt others to feel ok about yourself.

Anyway, my friend owns her own business which she started herself at home. Honestly I truly love it when women come up with awesome ideas and put them into action! My friend did just this. Now she is an older mother, which there is nothing wrong with. However, this means she is wiser in her age vs. moms who are 10-20 years her junior. While her son is elementary age, she's not a 20 year old mom.

I personally have always found her to be perfectly put together and proper at all times. Perhaps its from being from across the pond originally. Who knows.. but I will admit, to no fault of her own.. she carries herself in a way that makes me feel like I should try harder. You know, do my hair more often. Make sure my clothes match. Somewhat basic things, but she always seems so put together. I love that about her. I guess I am not that organized.

Now back to the mean girls. So this friend of mine is active in her small community. Tho I have not seen it in person, it reminds me a lot of watching The Real Housewives of ______ (insert your favorite location). There are galas, dinners, art shows.. whatever. Their children all play sports and husbands are involved in their own manly things as well. Everyone is doing something, or you are not someone. It is a very active community so it seems.

Since she owns her own business, she has the freedom to be involved. Due to her seemingly ultra organized life and creative mind, she manages to fit in fundraising and party planning for various events. She is the fixer. You have a problem, your event is falling apart.. she will save the day!

Well, one day I posted on FB an article regarding mom friends. The article went on saying that - sometimes I will forget to invite you to a playdate, or sometimes I will forget X... blah blah.. basically the blog states that just because she doesn't talk to you for a week or two or more, or that she forgets to include you... it is because she is so exhausted. She wants a friend who gets it and understands. I posted agreeing with the article. However, she commented and said "that is being a bad friend and she wants no part of it."

I felt perplexed and I knew I needed to dig into this. So she explained various scenarios where she was excluded. As we delved deeper into it, it was very much on purpose. While these women will run to my friend when something is wrong or they need something. They otherwise have no use for her. In some cases are flat out rude. Right up until they need something.

In her small community, she is the mom these Mean Girls chose to make their victim. What ticks me off is that these are mothers. These are women who may or may not have been victims of mean girls themselves. But here they are, in adulthood pushing down others instead of doing what us moms all should do, and lift each other up.